Apparently I forgot the caveats in yesterday's post!
So, listen up, guys and gals, but mostly mamas who currently homeschool or are considering homeschooling. There's something important I need to tell you.
Actually, two important things.
1. We are not all that amazing around here. Truly. We are a regular family with regular problems, and seventy five percent of the time we feel highly inefficient. In retrospect, maybe Friday wasn't a great day to pick, because I guess we were pretty productive, except for the piggie being thrown at the ceiling, and also for the moment when my darling daughter attempted to impress the boys at Book Detectives by saying, "I know a fantasy genre book! It's called 'How to Fart!'" ... and maybe that intimidated some folks. But honestly? It didn't FEEL like we accomplished that much ... until I wrote it all down.
I bet if you kept track of just how much you do in one day, assuming you're not sitting around eating bonbons (and really, who is?), you'd find it's more than you think.
And in balance, some days *are* lovely, overall. Lovely because they feel productive, or lovely because I've chosen to let go and let forts be built in the woods for an hour or two. And other days, it's uphill both ways to lunchtime, and I consider a solo drive to the nearest airport. I pinkie-promise.
But lately, the lovely days occur more often, and the airport days more seldom. I think that's partly because of things going on in me, but partly because my children are growing up. Slowly, slowly, slowly, we are gaining traction in certain areas that once seemed unconquerable.
Which brings me to ...
2. Life was not like this when I had toddlers around. Oh, no, my friends. If you have toddlers, or you're gestating or nursing a human being, all the more should you not compare your days to mine. Be happy if you can run a load of laundry all the way through and provide your family with a hot meal and few stories on the couch. If you get to the library or the woods for a good dose of fresh air, BONUS! It's simply not productive to hold yourself to high standards of academic accomplishments (you know, the stuff that "EVERYONE ELSE" seems to be doing) when your life is bracketed by naptimes -- if they happen. Do what you can. Figure out what matters most to you. Leave the rest.
I wonder about this pandemic tendency to compare ourselves to one another. Was it a mistake to post the details of my day? The funny thing is, I'm pretty convinced that there are mamas out there who cram a lot MORE into their days than we do. I'm a slacker compared to a couple of my friends, or a few moms in my homeschool co-op, for example ... but then, what do I know? Impressions can deceive. Everyone has private struggles. As I tell my kids often, "It's not a contest."
Take grace, spread it around, rest, and be happy.
You're doing just fine.