Monday, February 13, 2012

Recommended Reading

Do you ever read a book that feels like it's piercing its laser beam into your heart and history? Even though you're on vacation with your family and part of you just wants to be left alone in blissless ignorance?

 (Sorry, horrid photo.)

I thought this was a book on parenting. I turned out to be wrong. This is a book that applies to every human relationship, but especially those with the people closest to us -- i.e. the people we try to fix. I recommend this book to anyone who ...

... has ever felt disappointed, at moments, in her (or his!) marriage and thinks that if her spouse would just change x behavior/habit/personality, all would be well.

... has ever felt disappointed, at moments, in her marriage and suspects that if she would try harder to be a good spouse, meeting all her mate's innermost needs, all would be well.

... has a tendency to try and control, fix, coerce, apologize for, or make everything all right for, other people.

... ever feels embarrassed by her children's behavior or quirks and wonders where she (the parent) went wrong.

... seeks the love and approval of others to fill that empty space inside.

... wonders whether honoring her husband means subsuming her own thoughts, feelings, preferences.

... thinks that maybe it's not quite right to throw the "Children, obey your parents in the Lord" verse at her own children.

Etc. Now, I can neither confirm nor deny that I've done all of those things. All I'm saying is, I've got plenty to think and pray about.

(Oh, and disclaimer: This book will probably appeal more to a Christian audience. Just saying. Oh, and if you want to buy it, because perhaps your library doesn't have it, you could go here: Families Where Grace Is in Place. Also just saying.)

If you read it, or already have, let me know what you think!

Other Recommended Reading: 

Because Your Story Matters More Than  Your Stats -- Gypsy Mama
Why I'm No Homeschool Superstar -- Amongst Lovely Things


  1. Hannah! No, THIS is how the sequence is supposed to go: I ask you if you've read the book; you say no; I tell you I'm going to read it; you give me a year and then I get back to you. NOT: I ask you if you've read the book; you say no; I tell you I'm going to read it; you then finish the book and blog about it 3 weeks later, while I am proud of myself for actually buying it and making it to chapter 2, and then I feel like a lazypants moron. Duh! ;)

  2. LOL, Laura! [Hangs head in abject shame]
    Remember, though, one of those three weeks I was on vacation!

  3. This is a message the Lord is playing loudly in our home right now...and we are experiencing the associated growing pains of living in and through a message of Grace. I may have read this! Thanks Hannah!

  4. Just saw the subtitle on Amazon :_) "Building a Home Free of Manipulation, Legalism, and Shame" Yes!